JOURNAL | Of Roommates, Friends and Sex

3 March 2008

Compromises

Living in a dormitory is both fun and taxing. You are lucky if the people with you are not selfish thinking that the only thing that matters is their own comfort. Whatever happened to sensitivity, I don't have a clue. 


What's more is that it makes me more annoyed to think that their can be some people who pretend that they are doing service to their kin when it is really the opposite. Whew, I can string out more words of vexation but I am just not that type of person. As far as I'm concerned, it is better to look at the bright side of life and stop sulking. Things cannot be that bad. I mean yeah, I had to contend with the fact that I am living with people who are not so much like me but this is a challenge. A very big challenge I must say. Just as I write this entry, I feel so displaced for my roommates are already asleep, at 10pm. That's exactly when I start to work on the things that I have to finish. I am a nocturnal creature so my mind doesn't just work well in the morning.

And then the question, why is it so difficult for us to tell those insensitives that they are already crossing the line?

Then they have the guts to ask, "are you ok?" Of course I'm not. That's one of the silliest questions I've ever heard in my life. Questions which you know very well the answer. I'm so pissed off.

Maybe I won't use this entry, maybe I will. I don't know. I'm really confused. I keep on avoiding trouble but somehow it finds me. I hate conflict that's why I'm compromising as far as I can. And this is just the first day. What more of the coming days? This maybe the result of first day anxiety, if there is such a thing. But in any case, I am fervently hoping that things would become better.

Making Friends

When a person finds himself in a strange place, the natural reaction is to find his place, observe the people, and approach the ones who look nice enough to start a friendship.

This is exactly what happened to me today. I was looking for my classroom and I found a lot of students in my way. When I finally got to my room, I sat and settled down. Then the usual hi's and hello's then that's it, you have friends. Although there's still that part of reluctance that keeps you from totally giving in with strangers.

And I guess it is easier for women to bond. It's women's nature after all to connect to each other talking about who knows what. However, women's style is totally different from men. With men, it's not just you approach them and say "let's be friends." I think men needs some kind of reason to start friendship. I don't know, maybe a guy needs some help or he wants to share something, could be anything. The point is, with men the relationship is not based from automatic response. It becomes more of a needed response.

If men doesn't need anything from other men, I doubt if there will be a connection. So the question, do men's relationship last longer than women's? If a man makes friends, will that be something deeper than women?

I think women love to connect because there is that natural instinct to know the playing field much like the lioness in a field. The lioness must know where the food is, place to take care of the cubs, etc. But the lion is just there, watching, minding his own life. In a way men are like lions.

Sex

Just before I started writing my journal, I watched this Korean movie about a girl and a guy. It's really nothing special. It just shows the different perceptions on love and sex.

Is virginity still important for both men and women?Do couples need to get married before having sex? Does it even work?Should there be love when doing sex?Is it okay to have casual sex?

These are some of the things shown in the movie. It's really interesting how views on sex have changed for the last ten years. But come to think of it, the guy in the movie has a point when he said this, "sex is a natural part of the human system. So why do we have to repress it?"

The question, if sex is so good then why are we even ashamed to talk about it? If it's normal, then why do we have to brand people with a higher sexual appetite as sex maniacs or perverts?

Sex is good. Not to mention its health benefits. But don't get me wrong, I am no sex guru. I am a virgin and honestly I feel uncomfortable talking about it. You may understand that I come from a conservative society, well not so conservative but still a society that doesn't celebrate free discussions on sex.